boys and girls....the ever ending terror

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so i am single...all but two friends of mine are married or engaged...not a problem there is noone i really want to be married to and i am not like an angry girl who hates boys...i am just picky you know...i think there are somethings that are very important and i will not compromise....there are moments of weaknesses of course i am human...but the funny thing is the two friends that are single talk to me about the 'males' in their lives...and it really hurts me how these guys can just be so flippant with my friends emotions and friendship...just b/c they want to hang out with them...just b/c they know the girl likes him...it makes him feel good...you know well that sux! the girl gets excited and all emotional and they are just like oh yea this is fun! i am nerd! and we girls fall prey to it everytime...i mean when there is a guy that finally meets whatever requirements we have in our heads...or we think they do...we get all weak...like the things that are important to us fall to the background...even if we tell them our feelings and explain how we can't hang out with them b/c its too hard...the don't understand and keep pursing and we fall...i mean if a guy really liked you he would treat you like you are special i mean really and i don't mean crapy romantic stuff i mean normal everyday stuff..like calling to talk instead of texting...how hard is it to have a conversation...like not texting or calling only when you need something...seriously if you think about it how would you like you sister treated...like crap or like the amazingly cool person she is...respected and treated as a human but i say to you that girls are at fault for not taking a stand and guys are at fault for taking advantage...i hope this does not sound like i hate boys...b/c you know as well as i do i want one of my own...but i hate to see and hear my friends go thru crap they dish out...and i know how it feels so it sux all around.
its as Liz Phair said "i am extraordianary, if you ever get to know me....i am just your ordinary average everyday saine psyco super goddess!"
God is huge and mysterious in so many ways...one way is how he made men and women....something i will never understand and that is ok :)
hope this does not sound angry...just frustrated!

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Great Googely Moogely said…
Preach it sister! Wow. I couldn't have said it better myself. It's the never ending, the ever increasing, the perpetual search for the one who will love you the way you've always imagined. Your "friend" is falling prey to loneliness and flattery. Even though both are short-lived and come and go like a theif in the night, they are very powerful. We all desire to be desired and putting limitations on that desire is hard. It's hard to put rules and regulations on being admired but yet as Christians we are called to do just that. This is the one area that I hate and love the conviction of the Holy Spirit. With it I'm limited yet fullfilled, and without it I'm miserable yet accepted. I'm sure your "friend" knows right and wrong and is taking the necessary steps to remedy the situation. It's never easy to walk away from the ones who make us feel pretty. I chose the main course. No more chips for me please.
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